I dont Like Comparisons

Assalamualaikum,

Comparisons - How much I try to keep myself away from this word!! The reason being I dont like it.. I dont like to compare anyone with anyone. But the truth is that the more I try to run away from it, the more it gets closer to me and stays with me.. It comes in every form in life and everywhere - home, office, among friends,... I guess it sometimes creeps into our love life as well....

My opinion is that everyone is an individual and has his own individual personality. You cant expect person A to behave in the same manner as person B.. Why cant we accept the person the way he is.. Why do we always compare him/her with someone else... ?

The biggest comparison that I saw recently was in someone's love life. How a friend of mine was comparing her boyfriend with her ex-boyfriend. Her present boyfriend dotes on her and does everything for her, one can dream of.  According to her, her Ex was really good looking and looks matter a lot.. I simply could not digest the fact that even though her Ex left her and is on his way to marry someone else, still she is comparing her present with her Ex.. It needed some amount of coaching to her, to make her realize that her present is not that bad, to change the way she thinks.

I have seen comparisons being made and voiced ever since I was in my office now. when first time i came there. Everyone always compares the first Dept Head HRD with Dept Head HRD in present. they said the current HRD is stingy, ignorant, lack of care, lack of attention, unfair, evil and bla bla bla.. for me actually, I do not have the right to compare them both. because when I entered the office, the old HR is no longer served. I can only make an assessment only for current HRD, and so far is sometimes I feel unfairly treated well .. but its ok, she is just doing a procedure that was supposed to run. Maybe I did not meet the qualifications set forth by it.. thats why in 2013 i have to prove it that i deserve to being one of Part in that company. not just the one work and earn money through it.. but the one have sanse on belonging to improve that company.. cemungudd.. cemunguddd...

If someone ever tries to compare me with someone, I shut my ears.. I cant hear anything and dont even want to hear.. I cant be that person and that person cant be me.. So let the two remain, the way they are... I dont say that I am perfect.. I dont even intend to be... I am just me.. I dont like comparisons and dont do it myself.. I prefer to keep them away as much as possible, at least try to.....

Wassalam,